“A grateful mind is a great mind which eventually attracts to itself great things.”
~ Plato
This is the first post on my new blog!
OMG, I would have never thought I would be a blogger but I’ve been having so many things weighing on my heart that I decided to take the leap.
I created this blog to help share my struggles and life experiences, but also I hope to create a safe place for women to talk about real issues and struggles so that we may have a place of love and support for one another.
In this blog you can expect to read about topics close to my heart….
Motherhood
Overcoming anxiety and depression
Getting your life back after having kids
Being a stay at home mom and traveling with kids
Life after toxic relationships
How I detach with love
Living a healthy lifestyle
Self-care
I hope you will stick around because I can’t wait to meet you.
We’ve all heard the advice: visualize, say your affirmations, feel the feeling of the wish fulfilled.
But what if your body isn’t on board?
What if your nervous system still thinks success is a threat?
As a manifestation coach, I’ve seen this over and over again—women doing all the right things but feeling blocked, anxious, or stuck. The truth is: your nervous system has to feel safe in order to receive.
💫 Manifestation Isn’t Just Mindset—It’s Somatic
If your body is living in fight, flight, or freeze, it’s going to resist growth—no matter how beautiful your vision board is. Why?
Because your body is wired for safety, not success. And if success, love, money, or expansion feel unfamiliar, your subconscious might interpret them as dangerous.
That’s why I created this simple, powerful guide:
✨ 5 Somatic Tools to Manifest with a Regulated Nervous System ✨
It’s not about doing more.
It’s about creating safety within yourself so your manifestations can land.
🌱 What’s Inside the Guide
You’ll learn how to:
Reclaim your focus and redirect energy from fear to presence
Move out stuck “fight” or “flight” energy that’s causing sabotage
Use self-holding and breath to rewire your body to feel safe receiving
Integrate intentional journaling to anchor your manifestations somatically
This isn’t a strategy—it’s an embodiment.
When your body feels safe, you stop chasing and start magnetizing.
When I first started my healing journey, I didn’t know how unregulated and disconnected I truly was. I thought I was doing all the ‘right’ things—setting goals, saying affirmations, working hard. But deep down, my energy was scattered. That’s when I started focusing on my morning routine and raising my vibration daily. I truly believe this along with daily movement is why everyone has been complementing me lately and noticing my good energy and I’m not one to gate keep so let’s get to it…..The 4 Things I do to raise my vibe every morning are;
Visualization Meditation 🎨
Visualization helped me reconnect with my desires. It’s not just imagining your dream life—it’s feeling it, living it energetically. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between imagination and a past memory so when creating the life you want it’s very important to visualize it from the your future perspective . Even just 5 minutes a day can rewire your subconscious and open your energy to receiving.
The second ritual I do daily is
2. Gratitude. 🙏
Gratitude shifts your energy. When you focus on what you already have, you attract more to be grateful for. You might have heard like attracts like — and gratitude is the frequency of abundance which I welcome into my life daily.
Before I learned about nervous system healing, I was always on edge.Gratitude anchored me. It brought me back to the present.
It reminded me: I already have beauty in my life.
And that energy? It multiplies what’s working.
I now start every day with 3 things I’m thankful for, and it’s changed how I see the world and I’ve noticed the kids have caught on and do it too! 🥰
3.
Journaling
Journaling is my portal.
It’s where I meet my shadow, my dreams, and my higher self.
When my thoughts feel chaotic, my journal becomes a safe space to release, reflect, and realign.
If you’ve never tried journaling consistently, let me tell you — your healing accelerates when your truth has a voice. When starting my journey I journaled daily for 30 Days and a lot of stuff came up…..was it easy….no… but did it help me heal……YES! Because it helped me so much I created a journal for people trying to heal and get clear on their dream life! 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
Most of us are walking around with stories that don’t belong to us anymore.
“I’m not enough.”
“I always mess things up.”
“No one shows up for me.”
But narrative therapy taught me to question those stories… and then rewrite them.
Now I teach my clients to do the same — to become the authors of their lives again.
I really hope this helps you raise your vibration and start becoming the person you were meant to be. As a bonus I have made a PDF with examples in. This guide is my love letter to the version of you that’s healing, rising, and remembering how powerful you really are.
“A broken heart is just the growing pains necessary so that you can love more completely when the real thing comes along.” – J.S.B. Morse
A breakup, divorce, heartbreak, or expired relationship of any kind can send you spiraling downward into a depression, reviving old thought patterns and giving into those negative beliefs about yourself. Or it can be the greatest motivation for growth. It all depends on how you decide to see the situation and what approach you take. Many people when going through a breakup feel the need to hurry up and move on, When you do this you’re unknowingly putting a timer on yourself and the situation. With this mindset, you’re saying you need to get over this person in order for your life to move forward. You can’t just rip out this chapter of your life, Especially if it was bad, abusive, toxic, or painful, but the more you resist to accept what happened the harder it is to heal, learn and do better. Its ok to feel your emotions after all emotions are just signals your body is sending you to tell you something, don’t ignore them.
Instead, ask yourself how can I move through this while accepting what has happened. The good, the bad and the ugly. You know that all the events that happened are contributing to your evolution. A bigger and better you. This experience is what makes you who you are. Moving on means running from that situation and/or yourself. Moving with means accepting and embracing your story. This is the most powerful thing you have and can do. You are not ripping out chapters and denying what happened. You are accepting and taking charge of your healing process. if its one thing I’ve learned its holding onto old anger and resentment will keep you from healing.
Use this expired relationship as a love lesson. Use them to help you become better. Expand more. Love harder. Be a healthier person in your next relationships. Embrace the experiences and what you have learned. All of our relationships have beauty and lesson in them, Its part of the magic of being human. Learn to grow, evolve and connect back to you.
How to Move Through a Break Up, Divorce, or Expired Relationship
Step One: REFRAME THE STORY . The first step is the simplest, but can be the most difficult. Think about it like this. You’re not going through a break up, you’re going through an expired relationship. It’s a mindset. A choice that allows you to let go. It wasn’t supposed to last a day longer or shorter. It’s come to an end at the appropriate time. You may not believe it now, but you will one day. I understand it may be difficult pill to swallow but there’s absolutely no other way to look at it. Otherwise, you’ll open up a giant can of “what ifs”, “I should have”, “could have”, “if I only”, “if he/she had just” … and that’s when you start playing the highlight reel, and that’s when you regress instead of grow. Trust me I’ve been here.
Step Two: CUT THE CORD. No emails. No texts. No check ins. Unfriend. Unfollow. The worst thing you can do is follow their life on social media. I don’t care how strong you think you are. It’s not good for you. Photos and updates of their carefully curated filtered life will trigger your emotional elephant. It’s either over or it’s not. If it’s not, you should be working on the relationship. If it’s over, you should be working on you . If they don’t understand, too bad. It’s the only way to move forward and start focusing on you.
Step Three: CREATE A SELF- CARE PLAN. Let’s start with a self-care plan, because from here on out, you have to make it about you. It may feel weird at first because you’re not used to it but hey that’s the growth and breaking the toxic habits. Get used to it. When you find someone who really deserves you, you can’t lose your yourself. That’s what happened in this last relationship. Somewhere down the line, you got a little lost. You started to compromise, you put their needs before yours, little by little by you stop being the authentic you.
After an expired relationship, a lot of people are focused on finding the next one. They do this because they don’t want to be alone. If you are someone who can’t be alone, then you need to be alone . Being alone means doing things to help you connect back to yourself. It’s common to lose ourselves in relationships. If you’re “in lost” instead of “in love”. As you review the relationship, you’ll get a sense of the disconnect you have with yourself. Reconnect with you. This can be fitness, hobbies, art, self care, pursuing dreams/passions, taking classes, taking yourself out to dinner, starting a business, etc. It’s important that you connect to what lights you up. What makes you feel like a whole, complete person. If you can’t do it for you, do it for the next person you are going to be with. When you find the person who deserves you ( yes, I said DESERVES you ) you want to be the best version of yourself. A better version of yourself means being more attractive and bringing more to the table. Yes, relationships are about compromise, but they are never about compromising yourself.
DO’S AND DONTS OF FILLING THE VOIDS
● DONT: neglect, deny, numb, or ignore your thoughts and feelings. Acknowledge and feel them. No matter how painful.
●DO: Talk to a therapist or life coach . I understand friends and family will want to be there for you and give advice, but sometimes their words can do more damage than good, and for me I founded it easier to open up to people I knew would be less judgemental.
● DO: Forget trying to become the person you were before the relationship. You’ve grown so much since then. Instead, work on becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.
● DO: Take out a piece of paper, ask yourself, “ What do I love to do? What are my dreams? Goals? Passions? Wants? Needs? What makes me feel whole?” . Answer it. Write it all down. Then do those things. If you’ve written down any big goals or dreams, make a step by step plan with smaller goals to help you reach that destination.
● DO: Sweat. Go on a run, swim, hike, take a fitness class, do YouTube yoga in the living room if you have to. Whatever it is, sweat it out.
● DO: Take time to heal. This isn’t a race. Don’t focus on your ex’s or anyone else’s healing journey. That has nothing to do with you. Everyone’s timeline and situation is different. FOCUS ON YOU! Remember slow and steady wins the race.
● DO: Get out of your comfort zone. Don’t be afraid to do things that scare you. New experiences help you grow, evolve, and create new beliefs about yourself.
● DONT: Have you ever heard the song by the peaches “fuck the pain away”? Well, It doesn’t work and you will probably just drag someone into your mess. Using others to fill voids is a BIG no!
People who skip these step are not evolving, expanding, or becoming better people, they are numbing themselves and remaining stagnant, its your choice, which one will you be?
Time doesn’t heal all wounds. The work you put in everyday does. Everyday will be different. One day, you’re hopeful and happy. The next, you’re depressed, angry, and resentful. This is normal. Feelings come and go. GROWTH ISNT LINEAR!!!!!!!! These are just some things I’ve learned and thought about, I hope they help.
Lately I’ve been getting a lot of questions about traveling with kids, so I thought “why not make a blog post about the whole experience?”
First off, let me start by saying that I’m so very thankful for my children, they “usually” are very good travelers, and I love them so much…Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, this is how I entertain and deal with those crazy little people while traveling:
Snacks on Snacks on Snacks
Snacks are Major Key (as DJ Khaled would say). Dried fruit, goldfish, animal crackers,cereal,nuts, granola bars, apple slices and Jiff peanut butter individually packed , Belvita snack packs, yogurt bites, puffs, Jerkey and fruit pouches are lifesavers. I also sometimes pack Hostess muffin snack packs which Chloe loves but I personally could live with out her having all that sugar. They sometimes get smushed though and then are a nightmare to eat, so if you pack them Keep them at the top of the bag. I also have tried to bring baby carrots but chase likes to chew them up and then spit them out onto my so if I bring them its for me to eat…..like I said kids are great and I love them.
Tip: When all else fails, Gum and lollipops work wonders for the little one’s ears during takeoffs and landings so Ill normally keep these on me for emergencies.
For the snacks that aren’t prepackaged I use these snack containers below:
I love the Open and closable lid containers for Chloe and they have them for a DOLLAR at target last time I went but for tiny hands and very active limbs the Munchkin Snack Catcher Storage Bowl are a MUST!
Normally they will let me bring on milk for chase and I put it in a sippy cup and bring half frozen milk to refill as needed. For Chloe we use the Contigo Autosprout Straw Flip Kids Water Bottle, which my mom actually bought for her. We loved it so much we bought another one for her, one for Chase and a matching one for myself.
Entertainment
I can’t say enough about children’s activity books. My kids love the Paw Patrol activity packs, with their coloring activities, stickers, and fun surprises in each pack, whats not to love. I also pack flash cards, a notebook for extra paper, extra stickers and books… Always remember to pack their favorite books, this is a huge hit with Chase who likes to know he has my undivided attention at what feels like every waking moment and who doesn’t want their child to leave the plane well read. In a moment of desperation, sticky notes actually became design your own stickers and are now a regular thing we like to bring with us.
To keep little fingers busy, I throw a few small toy figurines, dolls, and/or finger puppets into their carry-on bags. I’ve had success on long flights with doing finger puppet shows, I entertained not only my two kids but the little girl in front of us that was sick and threw up on my jacket, did I mention how fun kids are? When all else fails, iPad to the rescue! Also, who doesn’t appreciate a little bit of silence while traveling, so don’t forget a pair of headphones for each child.
Important advice: If you can bring a travel car seat for kids two and under, DO IT! I normally travel solo and don’t always have this as an option, but I would have been spared a lot of sleepless night flights if I had had one, so if you have the money or free hands to carry it I fully recommend one. Had I been able to take one, I wouldn’t have had to hold a two-year-old the whole flight, who seemed to enjoy waking me up by screaming whenever I was fortunate enough to doze off.
Besides that its normally diaper bag essentials but I will urge you to bring more diapers than you think you will need. Trust me on this you never know when you’re on a flight to london and you give your friend your last diaper by accident and then your child pees and then pees again and it leaks out onto your legging and you have to just sit there in those pee legging like a Fool.
Well those are the basic tips for traveling with a kid…..good luck and may the odds forever be in your favor.
It’s funny because in the 12 step program they say admittance is the 1st step……well, in my case, that came a little later. You see, for me the first step was awareness. I guess I always knew deep down there was a problem, but when I would open up about it people would say “wow, he doesn’t seem like an alcoholic,” so I thought “am I just being dramatic”? Is this just a normal “guy” thing? I was pregnant with Chloe (my first child), I didn’t want to be a single mom, I didn’t know anything about alcoholism and how nasty of a disease it was, and I just wanted the american dream.
But OH BOY! Some years and a lot of “life experiences” later, I can say I get it a little better now. Alcoholism is a family disease; you may not be buying your loved one the sweet nectar they crave, but if you are lying and/or covering up for them, you are part of the problem. This didn’t sit well with me at first, and I thought things like “why doesn’t he just stop drinking” or that maybe I should try harder to “fix him”. I tried everything I could think of, I exhausted all options I knew to help him, and I even called my Dad once to come over and talk to him because I just wanted an adult to fix this mess that was my life. I thought a good wife stands by her man (Bonnie and Cylde ’til we die) but I was so tired. I had taken on all his demons as mine, and combining that with having kids, moving to Spain, and numerous deployments… I found myself lost.
It’s weird because everyone would say how happy I looked or how I was living my best life….so I thought, IS THIS MY BEST LIFE? I decided: no, it wasn’t my best life, and that I deserved more. I wanted relationships with friends and family that brought joy instead of keeping secrets. I wanted to be respected, but I wasn’t respecting myself with boundaries or by being authentic. A few therapy sessions and hundreds of podcast later, I realized that I was holding myself back from the happiness and connections I craved (cue manifesting the life you deserve). I knew I wanted to reconnect with my friends and family in the States, but I also wanted to connect with other women who might have had similar stories or life struggles as me. I’m not angry or bitter about any of it; I truly believe it’s leading me to my purpose, and that I can find a way to help others by sharing my stories.
Which leads me to the first real step…..admittance.
If you have a loved one that suffers with alcohol addiction, Al-Anon might be right for you!
Over the last year, I’ve really come to understand the importance of practicing self-care and the positive effects that it can have on one’s emotional health. Recently, when I log into social media it seems like there’s a lack of self-love. From my experience, the first step to self-love is self-care.
In Al-Anon, they tell you to ask yourself: “What is one positive thing that I can do for myself today?” Implementing this daily question into my life has had so many positive effects that I wanted to share it with you. When you dedicate time each day for self-care, you are telling yourself that you ARE important and that you DESERVE to put yourself first (which many of us forget to do). If you’re not actively taking care of yourself, it’s easy to let the self-loathing and negative thinking creep in. Practicing daily acts of self-care can help manage stress in a healthier manner, and will also reduce both depression and anxiety.
Personally, self-care means taking care of your mind, body, and soul. Below are my favorite ways to practice self-care and to regain confidence. I hope they help you…
Exercise : Become stronger, gain confidence, and improve your mental health and mood!
Eat clean: Make a choice to fuel your body with food that will nourish and replenish you with the vitamins and minerals that you need.
Become a part of a tribe : This one is tough, but oh so important. As an adult, finding your tribe can be hard, but having like-minded people around you will do so much for your mental state and for your heart. Surround yourself with people that uplift you, and stay away from negativity. A great way to find a tribe is to do group activities, for example: mom groups, workout groups, and for any hobby you have there’s probably a group for it (and if not you could always start one).
Learn to say “no”: This was a hard one for me; being a people pleaser I found myself constantly drained from always putting others’ needs before my own. Saying “no” isn’t you being mean, it’s you loving yourself enough to set boundaries.
Treat yourself: No, I don’t mean to go out and buy some big ticket item. Treat yourself to a bath, a date with yourself, a pedicure, or maybe even take an hour break from your family. Treat yourself to something that will soothe your soul.
Reconnect with nature: Whether it’s drinking your morning cup of joe outside while watching the sun rise, taking a walk, or hiking, it’s very important to get out in nature and to get your daily dose of Vitamin D.
Declutter your environment: Make your bed, clean your room, and get rid of any clutter around you. Creating a clean and orderly environment will help to reduce anxiety and will create order in your mind.
DRINK WATER: I know that you know this, but I have to say it. Go chug a glass right now!
Sleep: Getting enough sleep helps your emotional and mental health. A good night of sleep will leave you rested and ready to take on the new day in a optimistic manner.
Self-refection: Therapy, journaling, and/or meditating allow designated time to focus on yourself and your emotions. These are my favorite types of self-care because you can check back later and see the progress you have made.
Self-care and self-love go hand and hand, and to truly gain the happiness that comes from within, you have to understand that this is an ongoing process. Creating simple yet doable tasks that show it’s ok to love and put yourself first will help you change your inner monologue, so BE CONSISTENT!
The Manifesting Mama 